Category: Singles Spit Swap
Am I the only one who thinks that people who post on this board asking for someone are extremely desperate?
It just seems... I don't know. You don't even probably know who these people are who are going to post back to you. And you're actually looking for people who you don't know? that's the most rediculous thing I've heard in my life!! I'm not trying to put down anyone who posts here looking for someone, really. just saying. It looks quite desperate when someone does that. If they can't find someone themselves, they need to post somewhere.
It's argued that this board was created specifically for that purpose, and those who post here shouldn't be ridiculed or discouraged when they post here, and honestly that's all true, but I do agree with you. I usually don't read this board, because I really dislike such displays of desperation or loneliness or bravery or whatever you choose to call it. I feel the same way about dating sites and chatlines and such. I think it's pathetic, but that's just me. To each their own, and all that.
Let's face it. Not everyone is as cool and confident and attractive and outgoing and totally perfect as the two of you. If it were easier to meet people in real life perhaps boards like these wouldn't be necessary, but they are. Ever thought of setting up some kind of course to actually teach people to be more like you guys?
Ive come across a crowd having imagination sex, it proves my theory that they aren't getting any in real life, unlike myself smile.
I can't think of anything more fieckin desperate, than to fake sex where every eejit can see you,you might as well move to Amsterdam and do it in a shop window.
Stevie
Lol. Cool and confident and attractive and outgoing and totally perfect? Thanks for the laugh, sir. I needed it. Just because I don't see the need to advertise my desire for romantic companionship on a public message board in no way means that I am any of the things listed above. It just means that I don't like or encourage the idea. While it's true that for some people it's easier to meet others this way than it is to meet them in the real world, I think it's a shame that some of them don't even try at all before turning to places like this. I am in no way saying that relationships can't be formed here, because there are several examples to the contrary (Dan and Shea, Lizzy and James, Allie and Mark, et cetera), but I am saying that it shouldn't be the primary concern. And, as I said before, to each their own, and that is the purpose of the board, but I do agree with Sylvia.
I could be wrong but it just sounds like you're making a lot of assumptions about other folks, and yeah, I just did that to you, but I was doing it to make a point. When you ridicule people for being desperate and losers, for good or ill you make the impression that you are somehow extraordinarily gifted far as connecting with others goes, so you don't need things like that. OK, so we've established that it's sad to see people posting ads here. So whatcha gonna do about it? Rip them all new assholes for daring to do it? Tell them to shut up and go away? Act like they're something horrible that got stuck to your shoe? I guess what I'm asking for is more empathy and less cruelty, although I understand we all have some kind of right to be cruel to each other, and it's just a helluva lot more entertaining, ain't it? See, I used to be one of those folks who used personals to meet people. Can't say I was necessarily successful, but that's neither here nor there since I'm now happily engaged, but still I guess I empathize with these folks 'cause I was there once. Guess along with a life people have to go get empathy now, as it doesn't seem to come with the person when they're born anymore. Ugh!
I didn't make this board meaning offense to people. Just because you post on this board doesn't mean that y you can't get anyone else. Just different way of geting someone for people. That appears desperate.
It's not the fact that people post adds that bother me it's how pothetic most of the adds are that's the reason why I pick on them.
Jared's right, I've never yet seen an advert on here by a young lady that made me wish I knew her better. I've read quite a numbe of such adverts on here, and made fun of many, but because of the way they really don't try to sell themselves rather than the factthey are advertising.
There is no reason this board couldn't work really well if the people using it took a little time and effort in writing their initial posting.
I do tend to find it somewhat desperate when people post such a message as one of the first things they ever do on the site, why don't they try reading profiles and saying hello to people. I know many are very shy, but it's not like you have to walk up to them in a bar or anything so just give it a go.
yes. exactly. agreed Kevin that's exactly my point here.